Kenzi took almost two hours to fill out her work profile, even though most of the information fields were identical to the ones on her University profile. She wanted it to both be a good experience for her and her clients first and foremost, but she also wanted it to be an avenue through which she could learn and explore. Thus she’d thought long and hard about what she was into, and even moreso about her limits. One in particular. She’d tried out different combinations of wording because she wanted her meaning to be very specific and very clear.
While I understand the necessity of explicit, emphatic, undeniable consent in regards to BDSM, I also prefer to not know what’s coming and I like to have things done to me that are very spur of the moment. So I wouldn’t mind things being done to me, within my limits, that I have not explicitly consented to, with the knowledge that I can stop things at any time if they’re too much or too uncomfortable, but without shutting things down completely or making things awkward is a pause becomes necessary.
Tl;dr: Do stuff to me, and if I don’t like it I’ll tell you and you can do other stuff to me.